A Neufeld Institute Conference | Resilience, Recovery and Relationship: Towards Flourishing Children and Youth
Co-sponsored by Jack Hirose & Associates
Presented by
Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.
and Gabor Maté, M.D.
and Martin Brokenleg, Ed.D.
and Maria LeRose, M.Ed.
and Geneviève Brabant, MSW, RSW
and Colleen Drobot, B.Ed., Dip. Of Special Education, M.A., RPC, MPCC
and Patti Drobot, B.Sc., OT, RPC
and Deborah MacNamara, Ph.D.
and Tamara Strijack, M.A.
Wednesday, November 15, 2017 – Friday, November 17, 2017
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Calgary, ab
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Date & Location
Wednesday, November 15, 2017 – Friday, November 17, 2017
8:30am – 4:00pm
The Coast Plaza Hotel & Conference Centre
1316 33 St NE, Calgary, AB T2A 6B6, Canada
Phone: 403.248.8888
Website: http://www.coasthotels.com/
A Neufeld Institute Conference co-sponsored by Jack Hirose and Associates
Human resilience is remarkable. It is the ultimate good news story – that stress in itself is not the enemy and that we need not be brought down by the circumstances in our lives. After years of mistaken focus on the stress part of the equation, the focus is now on uncovering the keys that can unlock the amazing human potential to grow through adversity, to thrive under duress, and to bounce back from trauma.
Resilience is probably the most important topic of our time. It holds the answers to emotional health and well-being, to mental illness, to healing and recovery, to prevention, to addiction, and much more. Resilience is not only the best overall prevention but also the best focus for intervention. Resilience should be everyone’s concern, not only the medical and helping professionals, but also educators, parents, and society at large. Resilience is about ourselves and those we are responsible for.
This conference is a fundraiser for the Neufeld Institute and the offspring of a collaborative effort between Jack Hirose of Jack Hirose and Associates and Dr. Gordon Neufeld of the Neufeld Institute – a worldwide charitable organization delivering developmental science to those responsible for our children. Most of the speakers have generously donated their time and forfeited their usual speaker fees to support this fundraiser. The Neufeld Institute is deeply grateful for all who have extended themselves in this way.
Although participants may choose to enroll in one day, two days or three days, the conference itself will be continuous in nature, building on the model and theoretical foundations that Dr. Neufeld will present on Day One and Two in the mornings. Five of the senior Neufeld Institute Faculty will flesh out this model of resilience with special applications in mind. Dr. Martin Brokenleg and Dr. Gabor Mate will add their wealth of experience and perspectives on this subject. On Day Three, the three doctors will be in Maria LeRose’s most capable hands as she facilitates some dialogue and discussion between them. It is rare for ‘experts’ to have the opportunity to interact with each other, never mind in the context of a live audience of informed participants

I am so pleased to be working with Jack Hirose to bring this three-day conference on Resilience to Calgary. It is a first for the Neufeld Institute to do something on this scale outside of the Vancouver area. I am delighted that Martin Brokenleg and Gabor Mate have accepted my invitation to share the keynote responsibilities with me. I am also delighted that Maria LeRose has consented to moderate a panel, giving Martin, Gabor, and I, the opportunity to interact with each other around this important and timely topic. Maria is my favourite interviewer of all time, and we are fortunate to have someone of her media experience and stature to help draw us out on this topic. I am also excited to have five of our seasoned Neufeld Institute Faculty lead the way to flesh out this topic in specific arenas of interest. This should be a unique opportunity for participants to unravel the mysteries of this complex and multi-layered dynamic.

Resilience is an incredible construct – an overarching metaphor that touches on the arenas of stress, neural plasticity, emotional health, recovery, healing, mental illness, adaptation, defendedness, and therapy. It is relevant to everyone in most every role and regardless of age: teachers, therapists, youth workers, parents, support workers, etc. Fresh understandings are coming to the fore as we glean more working knowledge of the brain as well as the nature of emotion. The implications for working with children are profound, never mind the implications for dealing with stress in our own lives and in the lives of our loved ones.
I hope this conference will help to truly make sense of this challenging subject, and in so doing, open doors for change at a level where lasting differences can be made. We all want more resilience, for ourselves and those in our care. The challenge is in finding the key.

Who Should Attend
Education and Clinical Professionals: K–12 Classroom Teachers, School Counsellors/Psychologists, Learning Assistance/ Resource Teachers, School Administrators, School Paraprofessionals including Special Education Assistants, Classroom Assistants and Childcare Workers. All other professionals who support students including but not limited to: Nurses, Social Workers, Psychologists, Clinical Counsellors, Family Therapists, Occupational Therapists, Speech Language Pathologists, Addiction Counsellors, Youth Workers, Mental Health Workers, Probation Officers, Police Officers, and Early Childhood Educators.
Parents, Caregiver, Foster Parents, Grandparents, and Extended Family raising a child.
Agenda
Please note: there is no pre-registration for afternoon sessions. For more information, click here.
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DAY 1 – Wednesday, November 15, 2017
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» Keynote – 9:00am – 12pm
Keys to Resilience: Emotionally, Developmentally, & Relationally
Presented by Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.
The human capacity for resilience is remarkable. It is also somewhat mysterious. Although resilience is spontaneous, it is not inevitable. Everyone possesses the potential for resilience but only some come to realize it. It cannot be commanded and is not a skill to be learned. Resilience is not genetic and there is no pill that can deliver it. Resilience therefore lies outside the parameters of both of the prevailing approaches for explaining human behaviour – the medical disease model as well as the learning paradigm.
So where does resilience come from and how are we to make sense of it? In this anchoring keynote of the conference, Dr. Neufeld will put the puzzle pieces together to reveal the three pivotal keys to this elusive human attribute as well as the two natural contexts in which these keys are more likely to be found. Once found, these keys can be used to unlock an emotional process that is the very essence of resilience and the bounce-back phenomenon. This model of resilience has profound implications for school, home and treatment.
This plenary address will provide the theoretical foundations for the 3-day conference, laying the groundwork for all that follows.
» Afternoon A Concurrent Session Options – 1:15pm – 2:30pm
Ⓐ.① Q&A with Gordon
Presented by Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.
This session provides an opportunity for participants to interact with Dr. Neufeld around the material presented in his morning keynote.
Ⓐ.② Resilience in the Digital World
Presented by Tamara Strijack, M.A.
Our world continues to move quickly around us, with technological advances at every turn. Whether we like it or not, the digital world is here to stay. While in many ways these advances make our world an easier place to live, sometimes the shortcuts they offer come at a cost. Although technology can be tempting, offering its easy ways to avoid and distract from difficult feelings, it can also have implications for the development of true resilience. In this workshop, Tamara will explore how technology can interfere with healthy development and resilience, as well as how we can safeguard the developmental process in our children and adolescents.
Ⓐ.③ Alpha Problems, Bullying, and Resilience
Presented by Deborah MacNamara, Ph.D.
A growing number of children are presenting as demanding, prescriptive, bossy, and controlling. A disturbing number of these alpha children are turning into bullies, as well. Alpha children tend to have difficulties letting themselves be parented or taught. These children also lack resilience in the face of adversity. This is making the child-adult dance much more difficult than it used to be or needs to be, despite the plethora of strategies and advice-giving available today. Deborah will discuss the roots of the alpha complex, along with the path to fostering greater resilience in alpha children.
Ⓐ.④ Resilience & School
Presented by Colleen Drobot, B.Ed., RPC
Many students are able to overcome adversity, face loss and disappointment, accept not getting their way, and find creative solutions to problems. Yet not all students are so resilient. How can educators and schools cultivate resilience so that students will not only endure these experiences, but will be able to gain strength and confidence in their ability to cope with them? Based on years of working with Dr. Neufeld, teaching in schools, parenting, and counselling families, Colleen’s strategies are helpful for educators to use in the classroom and the school setting as they cultivate resilience at school and throughout their lives.
» Afternoon B Concurrent Session Options – 2:50pm – 4:00pm
Ⓑ.① Special Challenges with Adolescents
Presented by Tamara Strijack, M.A.
Adolescents are faced with an explosion of awareness in emotion and thought. This alone can put them in a very vulnerable place, with temptations to escape at every turn. In this workshop, Tamara will explore the rites of passage that an adolescent needs to go through in order to become truly resilient. While a certain level of defense or armour is needed to survive in today’s often wounding world, when the defenses become stuck, maturation is at risk. We will also look at how we, as caring adults, can step in to help foster true resilience.
Ⓑ.② Tempers & Tantrums in Preschoolers
Presented by Deborah MacNamara, Ph.D.
The expression of frustration and aggression in children can take on many forms, including temper tantrums and various forms of attack. Part of making headway requires understanding the roots of frustration and aggression and how to deal with the resulting behaviours. This presentation will focus on strategies for dealing with a frustrated child while preserving one’s relationship to them. It will address the importance of setting limits and helping children learn that they can survive the futilities that are part of life.
Ⓑ.③ Softening the Defenses
Presented by Colleen Drobot, B.Ed., RPC
Dr. Neufeld and faculty often speak of the need for a child’s heart to remain soft, for emotions to be felt and expressed, and for tears of futility to be shed in order for a child to develop and mature. For anyone raising a sensitive or stuck child, softening the defenses can be a daunting task that sometimes seems almost impossible. This workshop will focus on ways we can soften a child’s heart so that the tears can be restored, lowering frustration and anxiety and cultivating resilience. As a family therapist and mother of sensitive children, Colleen will share Dr. Neufeld’s wisdom and her personal experiences of how to restore the ability for a child to feel, attend, grieve, and attach.
*NEW* JUST ADDED TO THE LINEUP:
Ⓑ.④Making Sense of Empathy & Self-Regulation: is social-emotional learning really the answer?
Presented by Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.
‘Most theorists believe that every human has the potential for empathy and self-control. The controversy is in how to get there. Are caring and consideration something that can be taught? Can we reward caring behaviour and still preserve its essence? Is trying to make children nice to each other the best way to keep them safe? Is self-control a skill to be acquired or a capacity to be developed? Is empathy taught, caught or grown? These questions are timely as so many schools and districts are contemplating on how best to bring a consciousness of emotional and relational needs into the curriculum. Dr. Neufeld shares insights from the attachment-based developmental approach to shed fresh light on these important issues.
» Evening Session – 7:00pm – 9:00pm
The evening session with Dr. Deborah McNamara is included in the conference registration fee. Individuals who are not attending the conference can click here to register online.
Admission Fee: $25+tax per person
Nourish: Why Food & Relationship Belong Together
Presented by Deborah MacNamara, Ph.D.
Food and relationship were meant to be intertwined, but they have become separated. In this presentation, Dr. Deborah MacNamara will use developmental science to weave together the pieces of the feeding-and-eating puzzle. She’ll draw on the fields of attachment science, neuroscience, developmental psychology, and cultural tradition. Come relish and savour a thought-provoking walk around our most basic human needs and what they reveal about what is truly essential for survival.
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DAY 2 – Thursday, November 16, 2017
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» 1st Keynote – 9:00am – 10:15am
Play & Resilience: Why We ALL Need to Play
Presented by Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.
Building on his keynote of the first day, Dr. Neufeld will elaborate on the surprising role of true play in cultivating resilience, not only in children but in adults as well. Long dismissed as unproductive, play is now being discovered as essential to emotional health and well-being, much like sleep is to mental functioning. A number of academic disciplines are now merging to explore the remarkable healing power of play, rivaling therapy itself or perhaps even explaining why therapy works when it does. Dr. Neufeld will present emotional playgrounds as an ideal context
for finding the keys that can unlock the essential emotional process in resilience. Harnessing the power of play becomes the challenge of every parent, teacher and helping professional.
» 2nd Keynote – 10:45am – 12:00pm
The Circle of Courage
Presented by Martin Brokenleg, Ph.D.
For thousands of years, North American Indigenous cultures nourished respectful and courageous children without employing punitive discipline. Now, recent youth development research is revealing the essential elements in raising confident, caring children. Drawing on his research with Drs. Larry Brendtro and Steve Van Bockern in their book, Reclaiming Youth at Risk, Dr. Martin Brokenleg presents information on the Circle of Courage which offers concrete strategies for creating environments in which all young people can grow and flourish.
» Afternoon A Concurrent Session Options – 1:15pm – 2:30pm
Ⓐ.① Reaching Deeper
Presented by Martin Brokenleg, Ph.D.
From Parker Palmer to the Dalai Lama to the brain science of neurobiology, adults are pondering the importance of tending the inner world of children and youth. Native peoples have traditions which enhance and explore the inner world of youth regardless of that youth’s values. Current resiliency strategies create inner strength in children and youth. This session develops a theory of creating inner strength in children and youth and explores specific activities adults can use in classrooms and residences to help children grow on the inside.
Ⓐ.② Hypersensitivity & Resilience: Special Challenges with the Autistic and the Gifted
Presented by Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.
The condition of neurological hypersensitivity occurs when the sensory input is too much for the brain to process. The manifestations of this condition can range from a certain kind of giftedness all the way to classic autism, depending upon how this underlying condition has impacted attachments and development. It can also lead to attention problems or result in an Asperger’s syndrome. There is probably no condition where resilience is more needed and yet less likely to exist. Dr. Neufeld will briefly introduce this neurological condition, explain why resilience is so elusive, and suggest ways to restore neural plasticity and the capacity for adaptation.
» Afternoon B Concurrent Session Options – 2:50pm – 4:00pm
Ⓑ.① Discussion with Martin on Strength-Based Resilience
Presented by Martin Brokenleg, Ph.D.
This session provides an opportunity for participants to interact with Dr. Brokenleg around the ‘Circle of Courage’ model and the material presented in his morning keynote and his afternoon session on ‘Reaching Deeper’.
Ⓑ.② Discussion with Gordon and Neufeld Faculty on the Journey of Tears
Presented by Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.
Feelings of futility – in all their various manifestations – play a significant role in the story of human resilience. Yet impediments abound in a tear-phobic society. Neufeld Institute Faculty will share some stories of resilience that highlight the role of tears, as well as give participants a chance to ask questions about the journey of tears.
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DAY 3 – Friday, November 17, 2017
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» 1st Keynote – 9:00am – 10:15am
Fostering Resilience in a Stressed Culture
Presented by Gabor Maté, M.D.
Many more children than in the past are diagnosed these days with various learning and behaviour difficulties and many have problems learning from negative experiences. Schools also have to deal with an increasing incidence of bullying which “zero tolerance” policies do not seem to be diminishing. Dr. Maté’s keynote, based on his best-selling books, will focus on the causes and underlying dynamics of the challenges faced by today’s children—and therefore, by the adults tasked with nurturing and educating them. It will be shown that the most important feature of any approach to resilience needs to be the attachment relationship between children and the adults responsible for their care. The follow-up Q&A session will allow for generous time for interactive dialogue with participants.
» 2nd Keynote – 10:45am – 12:00pm
Panel with Gordon Neufeld, Martin Brokenleg, and Gabor Maté
Presented by Maria LeRose, M.Ed.
This is a rare chance to see the engaging Maria LeRose do what she does best – get to the heart of the matter in her interviews with her subjects. She will also facilitate discussion and dialogue between the participants and the keynote speakers, as well between the three speakers themselves, all in the quest of shedding more light on the secrets of resilience.
» Afternoon A Concurrent Session Options – 1:15pm – 2:30pm
Ⓐ.① Q&A with Gabor
Presented by Gabor Maté, M.D.
This session provides an opportunity for participants to interact with Dr. Mate around the material presented in his morning keynote.
Ⓐ.② Special Challenges with Adolescents (content is a repeat of day 1)
Presented by Tamara Strijack, M.A.
Adolescents are faced with an explosion of awareness in emotion and thought. This alone can put them in a very vulnerable place, with temptations to escape at every turn. In this workshop, Tamara will explore the rites of passage that an adolescent needs to go through in order to become truly resilient. While a certain level of defense or armour is needed to survive in today’s often wounding world, when the defenses become stuck, maturation is at risk. We will also look at how we, as caring adults, can step in to help foster true resilience.
Ⓐ.③ Resilience & Discipline
Presented by Geneviève Brabant, MSW, RSW
As parents and adults responsible for children’s well being, we are often tempted to correct their behaviour, teach them a lesson, or ignore their plea for attention. On the other hand, developmental science informs us that resilience is not inherited and cannot be learned; it must be developed. Geneviève will discuss special considerations when using discipline to impose order on a child’s mind, including ways to help children grow up and adapt to the many circumstances they are up against.
Ⓐ.④ Aggression, Suicide, Adaptation, and Resilience
Presented by Patti Drobot, B.Sc., OT, RPC
None of us knows what may happen in the future. Emotional readiness for adversity is just as important as physical readiness for a natural disaster. If there were any single tell-tale sign that the capacity for resilience is lacking in a child – or adult for that matter – it would be the existence or eruptions of attacking energy. Residual attacking energy is most often experienced as foul moods, irritability, and impatience. Eruptions of attacking energy can take many forms, including even suicidal thoughts and impulses. One could think of aggression as an early-warning system, alerting us to the fact that should a stressful event occur, a bounce-back is not likely to happen. This renders aggression of utmost concern – not just as problem behaviour to be addressed – but as a sign that the adaptive process needs to be restored. Patti will clarify the relationship between aggression, adaptation, and resilience and focus on ways to restore the ability to bounce back from whatever may befall.
» Afternoon B Concurrent Session Options – 2:50pm – 4:00pm
Ⓑ.① Resilience in the Digital World (content is a repeat of day 1)
Presented by Tamara Strijack, M.A.
Our world continues to move quickly around us, with technological advances at every turn. Whether we like it or not, the digital world is here to stay. While in many ways these advances make our world an easier place to live, sometimes the shortcuts they offer come at a cost. Although technology can be tempting, offering its easy ways to avoid and distract from difficult feelings, it can also have implications for the development of true resilience. In this workshop, Tamara will explore how technology can interfere with healthy development and resilience, as well as how we can safeguard the developmental process in our children and adolescents.
Ⓑ.② Resilience: Special Challenges with Divorce, Adoption, and Fostering
Presented by Geneviève Brabant, MSW, RSW
All children possess the potential to adapt and “bounce back” from emotionally challenging circumstances. However, the transplanted child in the context of foster care, adoption, or divorce has the most to adapt to, and the least capacity to do so. Geneviève will discuss some of the impediments to the development of resilience in transplanted children, as well as the keys to overcome these impediments and help children develop to their full potential.
Ⓑ.③ Supporting the Anxious Child
Presented by Patti Drobot, B.Sc., OT, RPC
Anxiety has increased substantially in children of all ages over recent years and can show up in a variety of symptoms including phobias, panic, obsessions and compulsions, somatic issues, sleep issues, and avoidance, to name a few. Today’s world can create many challenges for children. School and societal pressures, peer interactions, family dynamics, and many other stressors can impede a child’s ability to mature and develop resilience. This workshop will address this increasing problem of our times and help caring adults make sense of the roots of anxiety, as well as provide practical suggestions on how to support our children and youth through anxiety and help them cultivate resilience.
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Ⓑ.④ School, Stress and Resilience: how teachers and school culture can make a difference
Presented by Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.
There is no doubt that school is a significant source of stress for many students. Part of this stems from the pressure to learn when not truly engaged. The most significant causes of stress however have to do with the attachment problems faced by many students, at least in part because of how we do school in today’s society. Reducing these sources of stress would significantly contribute to the emotional health and well-being of our students. In addition, by cultivating a school culture that fosters right relationships and soft hearts, we would be creating the conditions to thrive and to flourish. Dr. Neufeld will share his thoughts on how best to do this from within our educational systems.