Making Sense of Aggression
Wednesday, October 23, 2019 – Thursday, October 24, 2019 | Richmond, bc
One of the foremost interpreters of the developmental approach tackles one of the oldest and most perplexing of human problems, exposing its deep developmental roots and revealing why conventional approaches to the problem are so ineffective. There are many indications that this problem is escalating among our children and youth. What tends to grab our attention is the more violating acts of aggression but what is truly alarming is the ground swell of attacking energy within and between our kids that erupts in their interaction, music, language, play, games and fantasies. This attacking energy is also fueling an alarming increase in suicide and suicidal ideation among children. Dr. Neufeld provides a way of understanding that not only explains what is happening around us but also provides insight into the individuals – both children and adults – who present with these problems. His approach is refreshingly sensible, historically accountable, and congruent with today’s science of the brain. His conceptual model has clear implications for practice and treatment and is applicable in any arena: home, school or in treatment.
Synopsis of the Material
The key to making sense of aggression is to get past the violating behaviour to the emotional experience of the child and to what is missing in the child’s processing or functioning. The underlying experience is one of frustration, not anger as is commonly supposed. What is missing are vulnerable feelings as well as a consciousness of anything that would counter the impulses to attack. Such children are inclined to attack when up against things they cannot change. Such children are also unable to benefit from traditional means of discipline such as correction, confrontation, consequences and isolation. It is only as the roots of the problem are addressed that aggression can be effectively cured.
Description of the Problem
Aggression is one of the oldest and most challenging of human problems and indications are, that in children at least, it is on the rise. What tends to grab our attention is the more violating acts of aggression but what is truly alarming is the ground swell of attacking energy within and between our kids that erupts in their interaction, their music, their language, their play, their games and their fantasies. It is the rare parent or teacher that does not encounter aggression in one form or another, be it tantrums, tempers, fits, abrasiveness, abusive language, rude gestures, hostility, racism, taunts, put-downs, bullying, fighting, shaming, belittling, name calling, vicarious enjoyment of violence or the self-attacking forms of self-deprecation, death wishes and self-harm. It is a sobering reality that the kids who fail to grow out of aggression by school age will most likely bring their problem into adulthood, unless the underlying dynamics are addressed.
Adding to this disturbing situation is the fact that aggression is so unresponsive to the typical ways of dealing with misconduct. The normal tools of socialization – rules, consequences, discipline, warnings, sanctions, withdrawal of privileges, time-outs, isolation – despite their sometimes immediate quelling effect, actually tend to make matters worse. Likewise, attempts to teach or train in anger management, self-control or prosocial skills work best with the kids who need it least and least with the kids who need it most.
The challenge in dealing with children who have failed to grow out of aggression by school age is to understand what one is up against. The emotional hardening in these children has left them invisibly yet significantly crippled: maddened instead of saddened by futility, lacking appropriate ambivalence and surprisingly unalarmed. In addition, these kids lose the ability to learn from consequences or mistakes and cannot adapt when things go wrong. Aggressive children are basically stuck between a rock and a hard place: unable to change what counts and too defended to come to terms with it. Battling against symptoms is futile; the roots of the problem need to be addressed for any significant change to occur. It is not a matter of teaching the child a lesson or nipping aggression in the bud or even improving prosocial skills, but of restoring healthy functioning and development. Until that can be accomplished, the challenge is to compensate for the child’s dysfunction in ways that can minimize incidents and take the violence out of the aggression. Much can be done towards this end – in the home, in the school and in the community.
This course is designed for entry level and as such has no requirement regarding previous exposure. For teachers, this course makes an excellent follow-up to the Teachability courses and as a companion to the courses on Bullying and Counter will and Attention Problems. Continuing education credit is usually arranged through the host organizations.
Agenda & Learning Objectives
The following is the outline of the distance education and facilitated video course formats. The structure of the live onsite courses will be dependent upon the time available.
Frustration, Attachment & Aggression
- a working definition of aggression
- the many faces of aggression, including suicide
- recognizing the nonviolent forms of aggression
- the role of frustration in aggression
- the role of attachment in aggression
- the role of peer orientation in aggression
Tears, Temper and Attack
- aggression as problem of adaptation
- impulsiveness, integration and the aggression problem
- the displacement effect in aggression
- the flight from vulnerability and the temper problem
- the role of the prefrontal cortex in aggression
- why some children fail to grow out of aggression
- why aggression is normal in toddlers and preschoolers
Handling and Reducing Incidents & Violence
- why conventional approaches backfires with aggression
- why consequences and time-outs are counterindicated in the treatment of aggression
- how to differentiate between aggressive behaviour and an aggression problem
- differentiating between incident management and addressing the aggression problem
- guidelines for incident management
- why aggressive behaviour needs to be `bridged`
- how to facilitate safe eruptions of foul frustration
- how to reduce attachment frustration
Facilitating Alternate Outcomes to Aggression
- how to shift the focus from aggression to frustration
- how to foster a relationship with frustration
- how to uncover frustration from the camouflage of behaviour and emotion
- how to help children form nonviolent intentions
- how to address impulsiveness
- how to prime adaptation and help futilities sink in
- how to soften defences against vulnerability
- how to help children grow out of the aggression problem
- to uncover the psychological roots of the aggression problem
- to recognize aggression in its many forms
- to provide a working model of aggression for purposes of assessment and intervention
- to appreciate the roots of the gender differences in aggression
- to learn to `read` aggression effectively
- to reveal the role of the limbic system and the prefrontal cortex in aggression
- to differentiate between incident management and developmental progress
- to outline three basic steps towards addressing any aggression problem
- to provide an appreciation of the inverse relationship between adaptation and aggression
- to provide an understanding of why aggression is increasing among children and why aggression is a part of so many syndromes and disorders
- to outline six pivotal points of intervention in the aggression problem
- to provide an appreciation of why the conventional methods of behaviour management don`t work with aggression
- to equip participants to handle personal attacks
- to equip with strategies to help the immature grow out of their aggression problem
Continuing Education Credits
Dr. Gordon Neufeld is a Vancouver-based developmental psychologist with over 45 years of experience with children and youth and those responsible for them. A foremost authority on child development, Dr. Neufeld is an international speaker, a bestselling author (Hold On To Your Kids) and a leading interpreter of the developmental paradigm. Dr. Neufeld has a widespread reputation for making sense of complex problems and for opening doors for change. While formerly involved in university teaching and private practice, he now devotes his time to teaching and training others, including educators and helping professionals. His Neufeld Institute is now a world-wide charitable organization devoted to applying developmental science to the task of raising children. Dr. Neufeld appears regularly on radio and television. He is a father of five and a grandfather to six.
“I have no words to express my appreciation to Gordon Neufeld and to Hirose for bringing this valuable, life-changing information. The material taught resonates professionally and personally too. Thank you!”
– Aliza Terris | Oakville, ON | May 15-17, 2017
“Fantastic presentation, informative and valuable for me personally and professionally. Gordon is brilliant and engaging. Very happy to have attended today.”
– Mike Van de Hengel | Oakville, ON | May 15-17, 2017
More information: www.neufeldinstitute.org
Who Should Attend
Education and Clinical Professionals: K–12 Classroom Teachers, School Counsellors/Psychologists, Learning Assistance/ Resource Teachers, School Administrators, School Paraprofessionals including Special Education Assistants, Classroom Assistants and Childcare Workers. All other professionals who support students including but not limited to: Nurses, Social Workers, Psychologists, Clinical Counsellors, Family Therapists, Occupational Therapists, Speech Language Pathologists, Addiction Counsellors, Youth Workers, Mental Health Workers, Probation Officers, and Early Childhood Educators.
Parents, Caregiver, Foster Parents, Grandparents, and Extended Family raising a child.
Executive Hotel Vancouver Airport
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Richmond, BC V6X 1A3
For reservations, guests may call locally at 604-278-5555 or toll free at 1-800-663-2878 by mentioning the group name “Jack Hirose & Associates” or the group codes as follows:
Oct 23 – 25 … Event ID 81102
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Nov 25 – 26 … Event ID 79486
Nov 27 – 29 … Event ID 81272
Dec 2 – 4 … Event ID 83736
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Plaza / Courtyard Room- a queen bed or 2 double beds, mini-fridge
One-bedroom Condo Suite – a queen bed in master bedroom and a pullout sofa bed in living room, with full kitchen and in-room washer/dryer
October 23 – 25
Plaza – $189
Condo – $209
Plaza – $149
Condo – $179
December 2 – 4
Plaza – $159
Condo – $189
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Registration & Fees
|Registration||Early bird Fee||Regular Fee|
|MAKING SENSE OF AGGRESSION|
|BULLIES: THEIR MAKING & UNMAKING|
|3 Day Option: Attend Both Dr. Neufeld workshops and SAVE!|
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