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Working with Aggressive and Violent Children and Youth

Presented by Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D., author of Hold On To Your Kids

Wednesday, February 21, 2018 – Thursday, February 22, 2018  |  Vancouver, bc




Date & Location

Wednesday, February 21, 2018 – Thursday, February 22, 2018

9:00 am – 4:00 pm

Wosk Auditorium, Jewish Community Centre

950 W. 41st Avenue
Vancouver, BC

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Workshop Description

Aggression problems are deeply rooted in instinct and emotion and are therefore resistant to conventional discipline practices. Dr. Neufeld uncovers these roots and outlines steps to addressing them. His rich professional experience with aggressive children and violent youth informs this refreshing approach to an age-old problem. The principles apply to children of all ages and all settings: home, school and treatment.

One of the foremost interpreters of the developmental approach tackles one of the oldest and most perplexing of human problems, exposing its deep developmental roots and revealing why conventional approaches to the problem are so ineffective. There are many indications that this problem is escalating among our children and youth. What tends to grab our attention is the more violating acts of aggression but what is truly alarming is the ground swell of attacking energy within and between our kids that erupts in their interaction, music, language, play, games and fantasies. This attacking energy is also fueling an alarming increase in suicide and suicidal ideation among children. Dr. Neufeld provides a way of understanding that not only explains what is happening around us but also provides insight into the individuals – both children and adults – who present with these problems. His approach is refreshingly sensible, historically accountable, and congruent with today’s science of the brain. His conceptual model has clear implications for practice and treatment and is applicable in any arena: home, school or in treatment.

Synopsis of the Material

The key to making sense of aggression is to get past the violating behaviour to the emotional experience of the child and to what is missing in the child’s processing or functioning. The underlying experience is one of frustration, not anger as is commonly supposed. What is missing are vulnerable feelings as well as a consciousness of anything that would counter the impulses to attack. Such children are inclined to attack when up against things they cannot change. Such children are also unable to benefit from traditional means of discipline such as correction, confrontation, consequences and isolation. It is only as the roots of the problem are addressed that aggression can be effectively cured.

Description of the Problem

Aggression is one of the oldest and most challenging of human problems and indications are, that in children at least, it is on the rise. What tends to grab our attention is the more violating acts of aggression but what is truly alarming is the ground swell of attacking energy within and between our kids that erupts in their interaction, their music, their language, their play, their games and their fantasies. It is the rare parent or teacher that does not encounter aggression in one form or another, be it tantrums, tempers, fits, abrasiveness, abusive language, rude gestures, hostility, racism, taunts, put-downs, bullying, fighting, shaming, belittling, name calling, vicarious enjoyment of violence or the self-attacking forms of self-deprecation, death wishes and self-harm. It is a sobering reality that the kids who fail to grow out of aggression by school age will most likely bring their problem into adulthood, unless the underlying dynamics are addressed.

Adding to this disturbing situation is the fact that aggression is so unresponsive to the typical ways of dealing with misconduct. The normal tools of socialization – rules, consequences, discipline, warnings, sanctions, withdrawal of privileges, time-outs, isolation – despite their sometimes immediate quelling effect, actually tend to make matters worse. Likewise, attempts to teach or train in anger management, self-control or prosocial skills work best with the kids who need it least and least with the kids who need it most.

The challenge in dealing with children who have failed to grow out of aggression by school age is to understand what one is up against. The emotional hardening in these children has left them invisibly yet significantly crippled: maddened instead of saddened by futility, lacking appropriate ambivalence and surprisingly unalarmed. In addition, these kids lose the ability to learn from consequences or mistakes and cannot adapt when things go wrong. Aggressive children are basically stuck between a rock and a hard place: unable to change what counts and too defended to come to terms with it. Battling against symptoms is futile; the roots of the problem need to be addressed for any significant change to occur. It is not a matter of teaching the child a lesson or nipping aggression in the bud or even improving prosocial skills, but of restoring healthy functioning and development. Until that can be accomplished, the challenge is to compensate for the child’s dysfunction in ways that can minimize incidents and take the violence out of the aggression. Much can be done towards this end – in the home, in the school and in the community.


Workshop Topics:


Agenda & Learning Objectives

The following is the outline of the distance education and facilitated videocourse formats. The structure of the live onsite courses will be dependent upon the time available.

Frustration, Attachment & Aggression

  • a working definition of aggression
  • the many faces of aggression, including suicide
  • recognizing the nonviolent forms of aggression
  • the role of frustration in aggression
  • the role of attachment in aggression
  • the role of peer orientation in aggression

Tears, Temper and Attack

  • aggression as problem of adaptation
  • impulsiveness, integration and the aggression problem
  • the displacement effect in aggression
  • the flight from vulnerability and the temper problem
  • the role of the prefrontal cortex in aggression
  • why some children fail to grow out of aggression
  • why aggression is normal in toddlers and preschoolers

Handling and Reducing Incidents & Violence

  • why conventional approaches backfires with aggression
  • why consequences and time-outs are counterindicated in the treatment of aggression
  • how to differentiate between aggressive behaviour and an aggression problem
  • differentiating between incident management and addressing the aggression problem
  • guidelines for incident management
  • why aggressive behaviour needs to be `bridged`
  • how to facilitate safe eruptions of foul frustration
  • how to reduce attachment frustration

Facilitating Alternate Outcomes to Aggression

  • how to shift the focus from aggression to frustration
  • how to foster a relationship with frustration
  • how to uncover frustration from the camouflage of behaviour and emotion
  • how to help children form nonviolent intentions
  • how to address impulsiveness
  • how to prime adaptation and help futilities sink in
  • how to soften defenses against vulnerability
  • how to help children grow out of the aggression problem

Learning Objectives

  • to uncover the psychological roots of the aggression problem
  • to recognize aggression in its many forms
  • to provide a working model of aggression for purposes of assessment and intervention
  • to appreciate the roots of the gender differences in aggression
  • to learn to `read` aggression effectively
  • to reveal the role of the limbic system and the prefrontal cortex in aggression
  • to differentiate between incident management and developmental progress
  • to outline three basic steps towards addressing any aggression problem
  • to provide an appreciation of the inverse relationship between adaptation and aggression
  • to provide an understanding of why aggression is increasing among children and why aggression is a part of so many syndromes and disorders
  • to outline six pivotal points of intervention in the aggression problem
  • to provide an appreciation of why the conventional methods of behaviour management don`t work with aggression
  • to equip participants to handle personal attacks
  • to equip with strategies to help the immature grow out of their aggression problem

Continuing Education Credits


Your Presenter(s)

Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.

Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D. is a Vancouver-based developmental psychologist with over 30 years of experience with children and youth and those responsible for them. He is a foremost authority on child development, an international speaker, a bestselling author (Hold On To Your Kids), and a leading interpreter of the developmental paradigm.

Dr. Neufeld’s professional experience includes years of working with violent young offenders and thousands of consultations regarding youth with aggression problems. His personal experience includes having been a father to five adolescents of his own. Dr. Neufeld is not only a seminal theorist but also a seasoned therapist and an inspiring teacher.

Dr. Neufeld’s unique synthesis of the developmental literature and his exceptional ability to make children understandable has made him much in demand as a speaker. His style is dynamic, his approach is refreshing, and his effect is to affirm intuition. His insights are regularly sought by experts and media alike. Dr. Neufeld consistently receives outstanding ratings for his courses and seminars.

Because of his ability to make sense of complex problems, Dr. Neufeld is a much sought-after speaker. He gives over 40 presentations and educational seminars a year and has been invited to present at the following: First National Symposium on Bullying, Ottawa, 2002; Educational Symposium on the State of Education in Nagano, Japan, 2002; Focus Conferences on Violence, International Counselling Congress, Canadian Teacher’s Federation Symposium on Youth Violence, Educational Symposium in Portland, Oregon; and WONCA World Conference on Family Medicine.

Dr. Neufeld’s book Hold on to Your Kids with Dr. Gabor Mate was released by Knopf Canada in January, 2004 and has made several best-selling lists.

 

Testimonials

“I have no words to express my appreciation to Gordon Neufeld and to Hirose for bringing this valuable, life-changing information. The material taught resonates professionally and personally too. Thank you!”
– Aliza Terris | Oakville, ON | May 15-17, 2017

 

“Fantastic presentation, informative and valuable for me personally and professionally. Gordon is brilliant and engaging. Very happy to have attended today.”
– Mike Van de Hengel | Oakville, ON | May 15-17, 2017

 

“Helped me gain more knowledge about my students, the people around me and myself.”
– Carmen Azzopardi | Oakville, ON | May 15-17, 2017

 

“Thank you, and yes, you are changing the world. Maybe not as fast as you want, but you changed my world this week, and you can be sure that I will be using what I’ve learned to change the lives of many others!”
– Stephanie John | Oakville, ON | May 15-17, 2017

 

This was a wonderful workshop, presented with clarity, simplicity and yet, good depth for awareness and understanding. I felt so encouraged by Dr. Neufeld’s way of cutting through the mental health rhetoric and greatly empowered by his focus on relational and instinctive approaches. Thank you!”
– Vancouver, BC | Feb 27-March 1, 2017

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More information: www.neufeldinstitute.org



Who Should Attend

Education and Clinical Professionals: K–12 Classroom Teachers, School Counsellors/Psychologists, Learning Assistance/ Resource Teachers, School Administrators, School Paraprofessionals including Special Education Assistants, Classroom Assistants and Childcare Workers. All other professionals who support students including but not limited to: Nurses, Social Workers, Psychologists, Clinical Counsellors, Family Therapists, Occupational Therapists, Speech Language Pathologists, Addiction Counsellors, Youth Workers, Mental Health Workers, Probation Officers, Police Officers, and Early Childhood Educators.

Parents, Caregiver, Foster Parents, Grandparents, and Extended Family raising a child.

 

Education and Clinical Professionals: All education and mental health or healthcare professionals who work with children or youth including, but not limited to K–12 Classroom Teachers, School Counsellors, Learning Assistance/Resource Teachers, School Administrators, School Paraprofessionals including Special Education Assistants, Classroom Assistants and Childcare Workers • All other professionals who support behavioural challenges and complex learning needs including but not limited to: Nurses, Social Workers, Psychologists, Clinical Counsellors, Family Therapists, Occupational Therapists, Speech Language Pathologists, Addiction Counsellors, Youth Workers, Mental Health Workers, Probation Officers and Community Police Officers.


Recommended Accommodation

Granville Island Hotel

1253 Johnston Street
Vancouver, BC

phone:  604.683.7373

website:  www.granvilleislandhotel.com

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Holiday Inn Vancouver

phone:  604.879.0511

website:  www.hivancouvercentre.com

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Our rates:

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When booking hotel rooms, ask for the Jack Hirose and Associates corporate rate. To receive our corporate rate, rooms must be booked one month prior to the workshop date. Please keep in mind hotel rates may fluctuate.


Registration & Fees

Registration Early bird Fee Regular Fee
MAKING SENSE OF AGGRESSION
Individual Enrollment $399 $419
Group 3-7 $379 $399
Group 8-14 $359 $379
Group 15+ $324 $344
Full Time Student $324 $344
BULLIES: THEIR MAKING AND UNMAKING
Individual Enrollment $229 $249
Group 3-7 $214 $234
Group 8-14 $199 $214
Group 15+ $179 $199
Full Time Student $179 $199
3 DAY OPTION: Attend Both Dr. Neufeld Workshops and SAVE!
*Select 3 Day Option at Registration
Individual Enrollment $579 $599
Group 3-7 $549 $569
Group 8-14 $519 $539
Group 15+ $499 $519
Full-Time Student $499 $519

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Fees do not include applicable taxes (5% GST).

Early bird cutoff date: February 7, 2018
To receive the early bird rate, registration and payment must be received by Wednesday, February 7, 2018.


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