The Roots of Resilience & Resourcefulness
Presented by Deborah MacNamara, Ph.D.
Wednesday, May 24, 2023 | Calgary, ab
These workshops are a part of the Western Canada Mental Health Summit: Improving Skills & Competencies for Mental Health & Education Professionals. Registration and full conference line-up can be found HERE
SCHOOL-BASED FOCUSED | Workshop #5: The Roots of Resilience & Resourcefulness
MORNING SESSION | 8:30 am – 12:00 pm May 24, 2023
This session is not available for live stream.
One of the most challenging and crucial questions of our time is why some bounce back from adversity, seemingly unscathed, while others fall apart and become emotionally distraught and dysfunctional. What has become apparent is that it is not what happens to us – good or bad – that explains how we are ultimately affected, but rather something about ourselves that sets the stage for the story that unfolds. But what is this something? Do some have this prerequisite ‘something’ and others not? Or does everyone possess this ‘something’ but it somehow needs to be activated for the potential to be realized?
The pieces of the puzzle are finally coming together and the answer is in this remarkable human attribute called ‘resilience’ or the ability to bounce back. Resilience is the ultimate good news story – that stress in itself is not the enemy and that we need not be brought down by the circumstances in our lives. After years of mistaken focus on the stress part of the equation, the focus is now on uncovering the keys that can unlock the amazing human potential to grow through adversity, to thrive under duress, and to bounce back from trauma.
Resilience is probably the most important topic of our time. It holds the answers to emotional health and well-being, to mental illness, to healing and recovery, to prevention, to addiction, and much more. Resilience is not only the best overall prevention but also the best focus for intervention. Resilience should be everyone’s concern, not only the medical and helping professionals, but also educators, parents, and society at large. Resilience is about ourselves and those we are responsible for.
So where does resilience come from and how are we to make sense of it? The answers lie surprisingly in fresh understandings of emotion, relationship, feelings, play and rest. These pivotal factors have unfortunately been eclipsed by the current prevailing focus on symptoms, syndromes and stress, as well as problem behaviour and dysfunction. The incredible story of emotional health and well-being is not about what has happened to us but rather about what hasn’t happened within us.
SCHOOL-BASED FOCUSED | Workshop #10: Making Sense of Resistance and Opposition in Kids
AFTERNOON SESSION | 1:00 pm – 4:00 pm May 24, 2023
This session is not available for live stream.
Counterwill is a name for the instinctive reaction of a child to resist being controlled. This resistance can take many forms: opposition, negativism, laziness, noncompliance, disrespect, lack of motivation, belligerence, incorrigibility and even antisocial attitudes and actions. It can also express itself in resistance to learning. Despite the multitude of manifestations, the underlying dynamic is deceptively simple – a defensive reaction to perceived control or coercion. Counterwill is undoubtedly the most misunderstood and misinterpreted dynamic in adult-child relations. The simplicity of the dynamic is in sharp contrast to the trouble it creates – for parents, for teachers, and for anyone dealing with children. It creates a perplexing dilemma in that what is most demanded or expected from a child can become the least likely to be realized. Understanding the role of counterwill in the development process is the key to knowing how to handle it. A three-pronged approach to safely defusing counterwill and to handling the resistant child or adolescent will be discussed.
Agenda & Learning Objectives
The Roots of Resilience & Resourcefulness
- what resilience looks like when distilled to its essence
the three tell-tale signs of optimal functioning
- the role of true rest in resilience
the difference between feelings and emotions and why we need to feel our emotions
- the three personal keys that unlock one’s innate potential for resilience
- how to make sense of the typical stress response
- understanding the essence of stress and recognizing it despite the diversity of experience
- the common impact of adversity and how it can be circumvented
- the tell-tale signs of emotional hardening often mistaken for resilience
- the complicated role of attachment in stress and resilience
- the surprising role of true play in resilience
- how child-centered parenting can backfire, resulting in reflected fragility rather than reflected strength
Making Sense of Resistance and Opposition in Kids
- the many faces of counterwill
- the meaning of counterwill
- how to differentiate between counterwill that is healthy and counterwill that is a sign of something amiss
- a three-pronged approach to dealing with counterwill
- why praise and reward can backfire in some children
- why counterwill is normal in toddlers and preschoolers
- why pervasive counterwill is a sign of attachment problems
- the importance of not taking counterwill personally
- how to prevent and defuse counterwill in children
- how to safeguard one`s relationship against the fallout from counterwill
- how to avoid a battle of counterwill`s
- how to help children grow out of counterwill
Continuing Education Credits
This workshop has been formally approved by the following associations:
- Canadian College of Professional Counsellors and Psychotherapists (CCPCP)
- Canadian Psychological Association (CPA)
† The Alberta College of Social Workers (ACSW) and the Newfoundland and Labrador Association of Social Workers (NLASW) accept CPA-approved CEUs.
* Participants will receive a certificate of completion after every workshop. Workshops are pre-approved for 5.5 or 6 credits per day unless otherwise specified.
Deborah MacNamara, Ph.D., is a Vancouver-based clinical counsellor and educator with more than 25 years’ experience working with children, youth, and adults. She is on faculty at the Neufeld Institute, operates a counselling practice, and speaks regularly about child and adolescent development to parents, child care providers, educators, and mental health professionals. She is also the author of Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (or Anyone Who Acts Like One) which has been translated into ten languages and provides a 360-degree developmental walk around the young child. She continues to write, do radio and television interviews, and speak to the needs of children and youth from a developmental science-based approach. Deborah resides in Vancouver, Canada with her husband and two children.
More information: www.neufeldinstitute.org/person/deborah-macnamara/
Who Should Attend
Mental Health Professionals: All mental health professionals including, but not limited to Clinical Counsellors, Psychologists, Psychotherapists, Social Workers, Nurses, Occupational Therapists, Hospice and Palliative Care Workers, Youth Workers, Mental Health Workers, Addiction Specialists, Marital & Family Therapists, Speech Language Pathologists, Vocational Rehabilitation Consultants and all other mental health professionals looking to enhance their therapeutic skills.
Education Professionals: All education professionals who work with children or youth including, but not limited to K–12 Classroom Teachers, School Counsellors, Learning Assistance/Resource Teachers, School Administrators, School Paraprofessionals including Special Education Assistants, Classroom Assistants and Childcare Workers and all other professionals who support behavioural challenges and complex learning needs.
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Registration & Fees
|Registration||Early bird Fee||Regular Fee|
|Individual 1 Day Enrollment||$259||$279|
|Individual 2 Day Enrollment||$469||$489|
|Individual 3 Day Enrollment||$659||$679|
All fees are in Canadian Dollars ($CAD)
Fees do not include applicable taxes (5% GST).
Early bird cutoff date: May 10, 2023
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